†: Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

1. Avoid touchy topics that can stir strong emotions such as politics, money or past hurts and grievances. Be alert to any hooks designed to draw you in – and quickly change the subject to one that is more neutral.

2. Recognise that you’re never going to change that person. They’re happy as they are – and like their personality. So if you try to change their mind or to argue your case, they’ll just become defensive, and fight back even more. You’re the stronger person if you can stay detached and don’t need to argue, or to prove that you are right.

3.You have the power to change your own response to that person, if you’re being bullied, criticised or pushed around. You can learn to be assertive and establish healthy boundaries that require you be treated with respect and dignity.

4. Try and look for their positive, attractive attributes. If you can focus on them, it will help you gain perspective.

5. Be realistic, too, and don’t ignore the negatives. Don’t expect a mean person to be nice to you, or look for warmth and friendship from a jealous individual.

6. We all need acceptance, affirmation and support. Make sure you have some friends who are kind and understanding, make you laugh and smile, and are reliable and loyal. Those will help you stay detached, so you are less affected by the games and tactics of dysfunctional people.

7. Sometimes a bit of distance or sparse contact is the answer. Know when you’ve had enough - and it is time to walk away.

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Are you sure you are really saved now?

Please take time to read this. :)
What does it mean to be saved by Jesus Christ and to be a real disciple of Him? And to live with Him in eternity.And by saying this prayer, are you really saved? And also saved from the fires of hell? Is it really based on just repeating a prayer which is: “Dear Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, I believe that Jesus died on the Cross for me and my sins. Please forgive me, come into my heart be my Lord and Savior, Amen” Seriously? Is this really what it means to be saved? When we looked back on the disciples of Jesus Christ before He said “Follow Me” which is not an invitation to pray a prayer but a SUMMON to these men to lose their lives. And that’s the thing that we oftentimes missed, and most of the Christians, evangelists, churches etc. We missed this call. “To lose our lives(Literally/not), with good intentions with sincere desires to reach many people as possible for Jesus. We’ve taken challenging words from Christ and turn them into trite phrases in the church. And in the process we’ve drained the lifeblood out of Christianity and replaced it with a watered down version of the gospel that’s so palatable ITS NOT EVER REAL! And the consequences is traffic scores of men and women and children who culturally identify themselves as CHRISTIANS today who biblically are not followers of Christ. Is that POSSIBLE?? And unfortunately it is. ;(Even Jesus said on His words that “Many will say on that day Lord Lord did we not prophesy your name? and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles? And i will tell them “I NEVER KNEW YOU AWAY FROM ME, YOU EVILDOERS” This is one of the frightening words in the bible. Many people are sitting on Church every Sunday will be shocked to stand before Jesus and hear Him say to them: “I never knew you” We desperately need to take a look in our lives and our churches and ask the question “Are we really BIBLICALLY, PERSONALLY, FOLLOWING JESUS? ETERNITY is depending on how we answer that question.Let us start to check our lives now. 

God has been speaking to me and these are the words that came from Him. Are we really following Jesus? Let’s think about that. Do something. While there is still time. Check your hearts. Turn and fix your eyes upon Jesus. 

All Glory to God.

Showing what the real Jesus is for me.

Sometimes, for us to show who Jesus is, and for us to share the gospel. It doesnt necessarily mean that you will approach someone and throw them bible verses right away, and teach then Christianity right away which is for sure, they will just walk away or might as well shout on your face. All our lives we thought that being a real Christian is to always preach which is a good point, but preaching the gospel without ur heart into it that’s useless. We sometimes thought that being a real Christian is to say as many bible verses as we can. But Satan is not terrified by that. he is terrified when you live the gospel more than preaching it. Some people wont believe in what they hear or read they will believe on what they see on others. Remember that to show the love of Jesus, is not just to instruct people of more bible verses and stuffs. It wont work that way, you need to know their issues, get involved in their messy lives without conforming to their lives but with the intention of lifting them up. Sometimes showing God’s love is just simply smiling at a stranger, helping an old woman cross a street, talk to someone who is alone and just understand them. We always think that we need to do BIG THINGS right away, but sometimes, SMALL things are what’s BIG in God’s eyes. 
“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.” -1 Corinthians 13:1-3♥

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